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Saturday, March 15, 2025

March 15-16, 2025: Reflections of a College Dad

[With one son in college and another about to be, Spring Break is a lot more than just a concept or a professional reality for this AmericanStudier. So this week I’ve AmericanStudied a handful of cinematic portrayals of Spring Break, leading up to these weekend reflections on being a college Dad!]

On three of the countless moments across this year (to date) that I’ve been pleasantly reminded of my changed circumstances (I’ll spare y’all the sadder reminders).

1)      Stadium Spotting: As I’ve mentioned here a couple times, my older son is a first-year at Vanderbilt, where he’s been having a truly phenomenal time on all counts. One of the most unexpected and delightful of those counts was the football team’s surprisingly successful season, which included a truly historic upset win over Alabama. My son was able to be in the student section for that win and most every other of their home games this year, which led to a new favorite pastime for his brother and me: seeing if we could find him amidst the student section hordes when they were shown on the TV broadcasts. I can’t lie, my son’s younger eyes were much better at that game than his Dad’s, but we both did eventually manage to spot him each and every time—and for a Dad missing his son acutely, those were certainly moving moments indeed.

2)      Professorial Props: My son is a Civil Engineering Major, so many of his classes during this first year have been quite different from any that I teach (or took back in the day). But as part of his Fall semester, he did take a Literature and the Environment course that was one of his favorites of the year (I genuinely believe that’s the case, biased as I might also be), and indeed has helped convince him to add an Environmental Studies Minor. Moreover, the class even taught his AmericanStudying Dad a thing or two, including introducing me to a contemporary indigenous poet I had never previously know about (Tommy Pico). So once the semester was done and grades were in and there was hopefully no danger of being perceived as one of “those parents,” I shot the professor a quick note to let her know how much both my son and I had enjoyed this class (she was as appreciative as I would have been to get such a note). Felt very much like multiple layers of my identity connecting at once in the best possible ways.

3)      Country Concert: I hope it goes without saying, for a young person embarking on their college career in Nashville, that my son has gotten to lots of concerts this year. But I can’t lie, I’m most excited about a concert that’s coming up in just over a month—thanks to my wife and me (mainly her, as it was her awesome idea), his brother will be flying down for the weekend and the two of them will be seeing one of our recent favs, the great Kane Brown, perform in the city in which he and my son both live. I’m not ready to say goodbye to my younger son yet (or, well, ever), but if this is going to be a preview of a world in which they both are in college, then it might as well be such a fun preview!

Next series starts Monday,

Ben

PS. What do you think, fellow college parents and all?

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